To the world you are one person
But to me, you are the world.
~ Author Unknown ~
Wedding Customs,Cultures, Myths and Traditions
Before the wedding
It is considered bad luck for the bride to sign her married name before the wedding as it tempts fate. For every stitch of the wedding dress the bride sews herself she’ll shed one tear during her marriage. It is good luck for the groom not to see the dress before the wedding day. It will bring more luck if he does not glance at the dress as the bride walks down the aisle. Something old represents the link with the bride’s family and the past. A common solution many brides choose is to wear a piece of family jewellery or their mother’s or grandmother’s wedding dress.
The Wedding Day
Monday for health, Tuesday for wealth, Wednesday’s the best of all. Thursday brings crosses, And Friday losses, But Saturday – no luck at all. To some, pearls represent future tears and are a bad sign. However, to others, the wearing of pearls takes the place of the bride’s real tears, thus she’ll have a happy, tear-free wedded life. Dropping the wedding ring is a contradictory wedding myth. The positive myth is that dropping the wedding ring during the ceremony shakes out the evil spirits. The negative aspect, is that whoever drops the ring is said to be the first to die. The couple should exchange vows as the clock’s minute hand is “ascending towards heaven” (i.e. upwards).Confetti has replaced rice or grain in modern times, the rice was thrown at the bride and groom to encourage fertility. The throwing of the wedding bouquet was introduced from North America and it is said that who ever catches the bouquet will be next to be married.
After the wedding
A bride should throw away every pin when removing her dress and veil, or she will be unlucky. Carrying the bride over the threshold protects her from any evil spirits that may be lurking in the new home. Let us know the other wedding myths you have heard of…
Something Old, Something New
The tradition of a bride carrying with her on her wedding day, something old, something new, something borrowed and something blue dates back to Victorian times, but some of the customs mentioned in it date back further. The ‘something old’ usually referred to a married woman giving the new bride an old garter to pass on her happiness. The ‘something new’ usually signifies the couple’s happy and fortune filled future, the ‘something borrowed’ typically comes from the bride’s family and used to be an item of great value, which the bride returns to ensure good luck. The ‘something blue’ actually originated in Israel with a bride wearing a blue ribbon in her hair to represent fidelity.
Most brides today wear white wedding gowns which symbolize maidenhood. This began in the sixteenth century and became more popular after Queen Victoria chose to wear white instead of the traditional silver widely worn by royal brides. Brides wore their best dress before the wedding dress became common and the colour was a matter of the bride’s choice.
It was thought that a bride was vulnerable to evil spirits and the veil traditionally worn by Roman brides, was meant to protect her. It was believed to disguise the bride and to outwit evil spirits so no harm could come to her on her wedding day. The veil became more popular in Britain in the eighteen hundreds and has come to mean chastity and modesty.
The tradition of the wedding cake dates back to Roman times and it used to be part of the actual ceremony itself. Some cultures today still use the cake in their ceremonies, but for the most part it has been relegated to the reception. The first cut of the wedding cake by the couple symbolizes their shared future and in other traditions, cake was thrown over the bride to ensure fertility. There are many other traditions relating to cakes during or after the wedding itself.
Throwing confetti on a newly married couple is based on the Italian tradition of throwing sweets on the couple to promote prosperity and fertility.
Alternative Weddings Customs and Commitment Ceremonies
When we think of weddings, we think of the traditional white gown, walking down the aisle, typically Christian ceremony. There are alternatives however to the better-known wedding ceremonies and these also include commitment ceremonies for those who prefer to go another route.
A Hindu wedding customs will vary quite a lot from region to region, but for the most part they are very elaborate celebrations. A common tradition during the ceremony is a priest ties one corner of the groom’s shall to the end of the bride’s sari. The couple will remain tied together during the entire ceremony, even while saying their wedding vows while walking around the sacred fire.
Pagan and Wiccan Weddings
A Pagan or Wiccan wedding traditionally is called a Hand fasting ceremony and these are based on Irish and British traditions. The name is derived from the couple’s hands being joined together with ribbons. This can be done in several ways, for example, the partners face each other, clasping their left hands (like they are shaking hands) and the ribbon is wound around their hands three times by the priest or priestess. The ceremony typically uses more than one ribbon with each ribbon having a different meaning, such as, marriage, quality of life or a basic element. An interesting tradition with Handfastings is, they can be temporary as well; for example, if a couple only wants to be committed for a year instead of a lifetime.
A commitment ceremony usually is not a legal marriage, but instead a joining of two people who decide to commit their lives to each other. This is usually done with same-sex couples who may not be allowed to marry legally in their country, or by couples who believe in keeping the law out of their romantic lives.A commitment ceremony may proceed in a manner similar to a wedding if you so choose, or it may be more informal. The couple will speak vows to each other and pledge their lives to the other, in much the same way a traditional wedding is performed. The difference being, the couple will not have the same legal rights as a traditionally married couple does.
Interfaith Wedding Planning
If you and your fiancé are of different religious faiths, it will be tricky to plan your wedding that will appease both religions, even the small things like the floral arrangement can be important, and your friends and family. The important thing to remember however, is you want to marry each other because you love and accept each other. Here are some tips to help you plan a beautiful interfaith wedding, you will be proud of.
A Long Engagement
Instead of rushing to the altar, take your time and have a long engagement. This will give you time to work out any issues that will arise during your marriage, and leading up to the wedding as well. If you are a religious couple, your faiths are very important to you, and you will have to work out what practices you will continue to follow after the wedding, and how children will be raised. This is the time to begin talking issues through, not after the wedding.
Learn about Each Religion
If you don’t know anything about your partner’s religion, then it’s time to learn. As a couple, or separately, research their religion and ask questions. This is to gain understanding of religious practices; it doesn’t mean you will convert, unless you wish to.
Just like with any engaged couple, you should attend counseling. This could be either religious based, or with a marriage counselor, so you can work through any issues that will arise. A counselor can help you work through potential problems before they exist and help you better deal with them.
Respect Each Other’s Family
It can be difficult for families to accept their child marrying someone of a different faith than what they practice. Instead of getting defensive, try to stay patient and help them to adjust to the situation. You should also visit each other’s family often, so both sides can get used to each other and you can learn more about the other’s culture.
Include Both Faiths
This is important; you must include elements of both faiths in your wedding ceremony. You must find an officiant who will perform an interfaith wedding and you must incorporate your religious beliefs into the ceremony. You should also create explanations for your guests, so they understand the aspects of the ceremony they may not be familiar with.Finally, personalise your wedding; whether this means following religious traditions to the letter, or making your own traditions based on your faiths, make sure your wedding suits you both.
Loving someone is a leap of faithYou are giving them your heart and trusting them not to break it…No matter what happensI will still never regret making that leap for you~ Author Unknown ~